finally I weigh in...

Wassup subscribers? I have been a minute away from the blog game with all going on with school and other plans (including trying to settle down and make an honest woman out of LeLe) so there has not been a whole lot of opportunity to write although the thoughts have been flowing. I really tried to avoid the whole domestic abuse thing after the couple beat the hell out of each other and everyone jumped in with their two cents, including Oprah, Tyra, and Robin Givens (three women that are not the best reasons AGAINST beating women)...j/k....kind of. Anywho, it's more disturbing in our community, the girls are saying she did something to deserve what he did. Really? The only time you have to get physical with a woman is if you're life is threatened and that means she's holding a gun or a knife to a vital part of your body. Was that taking place in that car? Highly doubt it. I'm starting to realize that it is another classic example of people settling for less than they're worth. How does the phrase go: I can do bad by myself. Whatever happened to that mantra that represented the belief that I deserve the best and if I don't get it, the best for me is me. Somehow, along the way, we've lost sight of that and now we give reasons for a man hitting on a woman. Scary, but I believe this is a trend that is not a passing thing. Hip hop, comedy, books give a culture of violence and being physical as showing power and dominance. Then we wonder why the cops fill us with 50 bullets when they arrest unarmed men. We portray in our culture that that's all we understand. 

Sad fact is as long as people sit and believe that they will never have a good thing or they deserve punishment based on what they do, they will continue to suffer and miss out on the blessings in life through self-condemnation. Life is too short and meaningful to think I deserve anything less than God's best. 

On that note, read Destined to Reign by Joseph Prince. Never a better book on realizing how much God truly blesses you, not based on your actions but on his Son's actions. Don't settle for less....expect great things, great relationships, a great life. I'm out.....