how I used to run game....

Wassup people? Hope this entry as always finds you well. Hmm, what's going on in the life....well, I'm happy everyday, enjoying the summer, writing, reading, all night convos, and enjoying life. One of the subjects that have come up came from a recent incident with The Queen (TQ). I think we can all relate to that one person that kind is always in and out of your life for a long time until finally you let that person go. I have mentioned in the past about my own personal burden that I kept trying to turn into a blessing and it just wouldn't fly. It's like the old saying: you can't dress up a pig in a suit and get a man, you just have a pig in clothes. So when TQ got a letter from former mentioned burden and I got the gist of the letter, I was instantly taken back to my days of running game. I'm going to let the ladies in on a secret: now and then, some men figure out the little passive aggressive method of keeping a woman "in love". How does he do this? I shall explain....

1) He comes from a standpoint of wanting to do nothing but do something as simple as spend time with you. This can also be used in the also popular booty call under the guise of " just wanting to hang out". Mmm, hmm, at 3 AM? Ain't nothing open then but waffle house and your place ain't one. In this statement, he's also going to say that he has no intention of any negativity, he doesn't desire to fight or argue or make you feel bad. But wait, he just may have time to do so with.....

2) where he then points out that since he just wanted to spend time, then it must be on your end and you just can't seem to make time for him, thereby making him the pawn in your elaborate scheme to make his world miserable, when remember...all he wants to do is spend time. This leads to the "rant stage"....

3) Here he starts to remind you of all those past moments that you just jerked him around (in his view) when in the past he wanted to make time for you. What he fails to mention is that the reason why you were hesitant in the past is because he made several promises before that and failed to deliver. He's been the salesman for most of your history, always talking about the new product (he's changed, he's different, he's ready to commit) but it's still the same ol' junk. Again, the focus is not on the reason for your "jerking him" around, it's just on your actions.

4) Next, he establishes his feelings and informs you what you can do. "You can call, you can not call, you can get back to me if you ever feel like it..." but whatever you do, his feelings won't ever change (and neither will his triflin' ways).


5) Finally, he will also let make mention of the fact that you can listen to everybody else about him and what to do about him ( he already knows that the people in your life will let you know to drop his petty a** because they truly care about you) but he'll still hold on. This is critical, he tries to convince you are living your life for others and not for yourself because if you weren't you would want him beyond all else: food, water, air...because he's just that hot. Regardless of the fact that your decision is based on sound advice and your innate desire to have something healthy.


If you noticed a theme here, it should be lack of self-responsibility and this works for all types of relationships. One can only change oneself and if they have they will focus on what they will do to improve the relationship. Blame won't come from their end, they will take ownership of their own negative actions. These are the signs of a truly repentant person. To everyone, especially ladies, don't let the other one play the blame game and guilt you into going back. Don't desire drama; a happy relationship is possible, but it only comes with those who desire self-improvement and for that reflect in the health of their relationship. I used to run the guilt game, quite well actually, I played on old emotions and downplayed reason and desire for true happiness. Don't let others do the same to you.


S.o.T.P. : "Only Human" by Jeffrey Osborne A great song, but too common an excuse to give less than your all to someone.


Continue to enjoy the summer....Peace and hair grease....


Star

A star meant for another
a brother that can handle
her white hot
why not me, not for me to know
but for me she's
the brightest in the sky
and her light is all see
be it ever so humble
there's no place
in space that I can be
where her light
doesn't reach me
my first thought is to flee
toward her
avoid her is the second
for fear is getting burned
but I do yearn to embrace
this flame, the same
no man could ever tame
blame can only rest on me
if I get scorched
by this heavenly torch
with views and ideas
that seem to ignite
the old ways like flash paper
her passion will never taper
but can she ignite mine
with my nature so sublime
and content to just relish
and cherish this existence
but looking at her
to think to tempt fate
there's no debate
I have to capture this star