apology letter

Circumstances of today have me reflecting deeply so I thought a twist for today's entry. A few years ago, Congress issued an apology for slavery. Unfortunately, all those who should have been apologized to are dead so a day late and a dollar short as they say. However, women have been, still are and always will be here so I decided to try to capture what good men and those who will be good men one day (if only in their minds) should speak on to the fairer gender. I'm hoping all men can one day cosign on the same sentiment. Hope you enjoy....


Ladies,

First and foremost, we simply ask for forgiveness. We took you for granted from the days of Adam and too many times blamed you for our own shortcomings. It was forgotten so quickly that you are the crown of creation, you were the completion, the last thing the Father created in order to consummate the beginning of nature as we know it. We, as men, saw things completely through the eyes of usefulness and your capability of performing a task rather than, first and foremost, a beauty. There have been others who saw you as only a pretty object to be put on a shelf and ignored for the most part except in instances we desired you for selfish reasons. It was failed to be realized that beneath that excellence lay a soul yearned to be searched and embraced.

You were put into roles of submission beneath men's desires and told to accept your role and love it; given the compliant position without a love and tenderness that we tend to lack when we don't use the example of the Father as guidance. Other times, we left you completely alone to defend yourself against a world that desired to diminish and humiliate you because of jealousy of your position at the pinnacle of creation. You fought the role as father and mother too many times while we went off to satisfy our own egocentric desires. You developed a fear and mistrust that added to your burden of waiting for Him to bring your soul mate. The wall around your heart begin to grow thick and dark, pushing all semblance of compassion to the back to hide in the deepest recesses of your mind.

You have been pursued for a time by some until you were captured and then taken for granted. We failed to realize that you crave to be pursued everyday of your life. You have desired from a young girl to imagine your prince to come one day and represent His love for you. Within each and everyone of you, there lies a desire to not only be seen as beautiful and precious, but also to be needed, to be the only one who can save our lives. We tended to forget that you were removed from our side, fashioned from our rib to be our partner, not from our foot to be our servant. The desire for romance too often was ignored under the guise of "not being practical". Times you just wanted us to make a day of you and remind you that you are the greatest blessing we've ever been given: as our lovers, wives, and mothers.

You have been set against each other by our own personal agendas. Women began to blame each other since they were unable to capture the heart of men who were not worth capturing. We used many of you at one time and told you simply the lie that "that's just how we're made" when it was our own insecurities at the doubt we could be all things for you. What failed to be discovered was a sentiment from so many women for their man, put best by Mary J. Blige: I know you're just a man, but you're all the man I need. Out of frustration, you turned on each other when the blame lies with us.

We will begin to make it up to you. We will accept our roles as fathers and husbands and remember not only to lead our family, but love our family and not to diminish the significance of the statement "my wife and kids". We will see it as "my life and air". We will be faithful and make everyday a day to show you how many ways you have saved our lives. We will accept our shortcomings, give them to the Father to change, and focus on our strengths as He molds us into a complete work. We will search and seek out the depths of your soul and make you our sun and moon. We will protect you from the world as fathers and show you what type of man you should expect to pursue you. We will take your hand and face life's adventures as a team. We will love you unconditionally, hold you in high esteem, and learn you. Forgive us.


Sincerely,
Sons of Adam


S.o.T.P.: What a woman really means by Donny Hathaway

I'm out...Peace and blessings....